Attract Gay Men

Why do I keep attracting feminine or gay men?

So, though he won't admit it, the signs are there, and he keeps asking questions heterosexual men do not...he's gotta be gay or at least bi. The sad part is that he's just another guy in a series of men I keep attracting. This would be number 8 in 6 years. Single, black, female and hurt.

I hear that many black women attract gay men. I know I'm strong minded and can come off domineering. I know my personality is open and honest. Theirs is more closed and vauge. I'm happy and free. They don't seem to be. They want me to determine stuff and make decisions for them. I'm tired of being a "psuedo-girlfriend." I turned 27 last Tuesday and this constantly reminds me that I'm probably not destined for anyone.

I've gotten my life together in many ways. I've lost weight, looked more feminine and joined a support group to help deal with my emotional issues. I just recently learned I've got some "codependecy" issues so that might have something to do with it. Any real advice?

Honey, maybe your personality is very attractive, and you keep attracting feminine/gay guys because gays and femmes LOVE women who are strong and independent. What you need to do is accept your graces and keep living life. I am sure you will find a straight masc man who will love your attributes. You know that pretty/hot girls ALWAYS hang out with gays,right? Use that to your advantage. Take your gay friends to a straight bar, have them lavish you with compliments, and a straight man will surely take notice.

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